8-9-21
- Leadership is described as a skill, and therefore it can be developed. However, it also raises the following question: How to influence people?
To do this, you need to know how to engage with the people who work in a given action, and then be able to draw from them the so-called voluntary gifts such as creativity, trust, and excellence.
- influence in this situation is basic and necessary to differentiate Authority from Power.
- Power being the way to force someone to do what you want.
- Authority is the ability of making someone do an action based on goodwill and influence.
In other words, power is the freedom a person has to command someone and authority is a skill that is achieved.
In addition, there are opposing situations, where people have great influence and authority, but do not hold a position of power.
To have authority, a person must have the following behaviors:
- Honesty; don’t sugar coat things, be upfront
- Good example; show someone how you do things, bring them into your realm
- Be Careful; don’t overwhelm them with ideas and things they arnt ready to accomplish
- Know to listen; listen to their needs, wants and desires
- Be trustful; don’t share their fears and personal conversations with others
- Know to respect; Respect their abilities and their feelings, keeping in mind that if you betray a confidence or feel the need to talk negatively about them behind their back, even if it’s innocent conversation, and they find out about it. The chances that all the good you have done could be lost forever.
- Encourage people; always try to build them up and not tear them down. Always praise in public and give criticism in private
- Be positive; be a goal setter, give a you can do it attitude, show a vested interest
- Like to relate. Share similar experiences, show your weakness and how you were able to overcome
all of the skills above are behaviors and those are choices of a person.
An encouragement should not only look at technical skills, but also personal skills. Keep aware of what people can actually do and be aware of the personal implications of how they may feel. “Does working out in front of others, especially people with much higher abilities, cause them to feel inferior
The relationships we create are the basis for people to cooperate and help one another, and since we are in the business of encouraging people, it is essential to build strong and healthy relationships.
- how to listen well.
know how to listen. It also means not interrupting people in the middle of a sentence.
when you interrupt someone’s speech, you aren’t paying attention to it. And maybe don’t value what the broadcaster has to say.
This sends a disrespectful and arrogant message to the very people we are trying to help. It is also a very common thing to happen and something we need to be very aware of.
What does it take to serve as an encouragement to others, sacrifice, trust and respect. Service and sacrifice are the most difficult ones right?
This can be true but not for those who love what they do. This feeling is important because it means loyalty, teamwork, respect for dignity and individuality. That’s why, loving what you do is seen as the strength for any organization.
But how to build love in what you are doing? Love is grounded upon the will to do something and the action in doing it.
WILL = ACTION + INTENTIONS
Therefore, when our actions are aligned with our intentions ,we get the will and thus we become coherent and harmonious in what we are doing
The will is the basis of a true encourager
When people feel valued and important, when they feel like their opinions matters they will feel a type of love, love and the feeling of being loved, wanted, accepted is a powerful encourager and makes a person motivated to succeed
Why does it feel strange to love people and love what you do?
We don’t understand the word love
Eros- Sexual attraction
Storjay- family affection
Philos- brotherly love
Agape- unconditional action of love, Love is a verb, an action not a feeling
Being a leader and agape love are synonyms,
- Patience: a virtue of the human being, shown through emotional self-control, without losing concentration while exposed to unpleasant situations;
- Goodness: those who have good intentions and always give proper attention, appreciate someone’s ideas and encourage them positively;
- Humility: a leader must be authentic and not show arrogance or pride;
- Respect: give importance to other people and their opinions by appreciating and considering their ideas;
- Self-denial: meeting the needs of other people, ignoring self-interests;
- Forgiveness: do not show resentment by deceiving yourself;
- Honesty: be free from deceit and lies;
- Commitment: work on the choices that maintain your authority;
A leader needs to put aside his interests, wants and needs, seeking the greater good for others. In doing this you will motivate yourself to do more, to do better,
You will strive to achieve new goals yourself so that you can give to others. When you become focused on helping others, the things we do for ourselves become more important.
The Environment
- How are we able to provide an adequate and convenient environment, favorable to the fulfillment of tasks, as well as the individual growth?
- Keep in mind we can not change people, they have to change for themselves. If we are able to give people the tools then we can facilitate their desire to change.
- We are able to warn, but in a personal way, allowing the people themselves to perceive the need for change, motivating themselves to make that change.
- And also to praise them, being positive and giving value to their progress.
The Choice
- Change begins with the choice to take responsibility and to devote our lives to do good actions associated with good intentions. In this way, we create the basis, that is, the necessary will to be an encourager and to motivate ourselves and others.,
- It takes a lot of discipline to cover all the responsibilities.
- We will have setbacks and we will have many ups and downs
- In the end if we stay the course we can achieve anything
The Reward
- Encouragement and motivation brings us the sense of inner improvement and also the conviction that we are doing what is really right. For ourselves and others
- , we connect ourselves to the deepest principles of life while at the same time we achieve our goals more efficiently, with respect and trust on the people around us.
How does this apply to me?
- Be an encourager to someone
- Be a help
- This will give u motivation to do better, even someone just starting out on this healthier journey can be an encouragement to someone else, and in doing so give themselves more motivation to do more, do better, be more proactive in life.
Be all that you can be and enjoy life more full by giving to others
It is better to give than receive they say?
By giving to others you in turn receive inner satisfaction and motivation yourself.